Capital Living

This is one of the best i have seen Rukky….

This is so shocking i can't even say anything…..what do y'all think?please leave a comment here..

Wow we love love love rih rih.Thank Goodness she is all covered up...

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While conflict  in a relationship is inevitable,how you respond to it makes all the difference.If there is one thing couples researchers have pounded into our heads in the last few years is that it is better to fight than to disengage.John Gottman,famous for his claim that he can predict divorce with 94% accuracy after only a few minutes of exposure to a couple ( Buehlman,Gottman & Katz 1992 ) attributes this prediction,atleast in a part,to his ability to identify what he terms "The four horseman of the apocalypse". These include Critisism,contempt,defensivesness and stonewalling.Amongst the four, stonewalling ( withdrawing to avoid conflict ) might be the most toxic.Gottman normalizes fighting in relationships,the fact that couples fight doesn't enter into his calculation ( Gottman 1999 ) It is more of the way they fight that concerns him.
He is much more hopeful about engaged fighting than disengaged fighting.Disengaged fighting looks like this: We have a conflict,you say something that hurts me,and I don't talk to you for the rest of the day or night,week or even a month.
There are a lot of explanations for why being the object of this type of withdrawal is particularly damaging.one is that it actually activates pain centers in our brains that wouldn't otherwise come into play, according to ostracism researcher Kipling Williams,even a brief period of ostracism can activate the anterior cingulate cortex,the part of the brain that detects pain.The silent treatment is akin to the demand.-withdraw pattern many researchers have identified.In which one partner nags or confronts,and the other pulls away.A review of 75 studies that included more than 14,000 participants suggestd that the demand-withdrawal pattern is one of the most damaging types of conflict and a major predictor of divorce.Researches cite as evidence lower relationship  satisfaction,poorer communication,less intimacy,conscientiousness,and agreeableness,more neauroticism and aggression and even more physical problems ( including immune,urinary,bowel and rectile concerns )
For some couples,the demand-withdraw pattern starts from a healthy motivation.It can be effective to give ourselves "time out"a few minutes to cool down and get perspective on a conflict.but longer periods of withdrawal and especially intentional avoidance of ones partner following a conflict,and can erode even a strong relationship.couples therapist can attest to this,and they tend to to see disengagement as the most difficult problem to treat.Its a relief when couples fight or report fighting to a therapist.This means that they still care and makes it easier to resolve.






Jessica Grogan ( June 30 2014 )

Beautiful dark skin.

This is Kim-K just a few years ago…Then the picture on the right is Kim Now.She says she hasn't had anything done..LOL..Ok You be the judge...

Ok this is me just watching the TV and suddenly a British program about women birthing comes on.My first instinct was to change the channel.When I was still having my babies,it used to be one of my favourite program's to watch,especially during my pregnancy periods,I remember the four beautiful experiences like it was yesterday,and they weren't that far apart from each other...but since my last is not a baby anymore,I don't really watch the program no more,so like I said,I was just about to flip the channel when something caught my eye...
The woman is disabled,she said she had an accident ( she got knocked down by a car  ) at 13yrs.So it kind of affected her brain,speech,walk,most of her motor-neuron.but her husband is very much ok.They had been married for about 21 yrs..met when she was 18yrs old,in their church choir. Guess what? She saw him,liked him, and even asked him out, He accepted,and they have been together from that time till date,but this is her first pregnancy though.Meanwhile because she is mostly unsteady,He helps her to do things around the house,Infact he helps her do almost everything,so much so that his work hours is centred around her needs and his office is just about 10 mins from their house.Just watching them made me so emotional.
You need to see them gushing over each other...she has a lovely smile,and is constantly smiling and giggly.Even though she was in labour and was having pains,she was still all smiles and giggly
I don't know why I am even sharing this,but it just feels good to know there are still some good men in this world.Men who see more than the physical,  a man who is with a disabled woman and they are happy, who believes so much in her and loves her soo much.
It just sets me wondering,what is there in this life that people are killing themselves about?...what pushes people to be nasty to other people without having a conscience? What makes a man to leave his wife just cos he feels there is a better or finer woman outside,what makes a man leave a woman he has spent so many years with ,what makes a man suddenly  fall out of love after that initial gush of love...
I wish I could answer that…..